You've been betrayed.
Maybe it was a friendship that shattered without warning. Maybe it was a family member you trusted who stole from you, lied to you, controlled you. Maybe it was romantic. Maybe it was work. Maybe you’re not even sure what happened—you just know something doesn’t feel right and you can’t stop questioning everything.
What you know for certain: you’ve lost trust in yourself.
You’re isolated because you can’t talk about this openly. Every time you try to explain it, people don’t understand. They say “just move on” or “they weren’t worth it anyway,” and you feel more alone than ever.
You’re carrying shame that isn’t even yours. You’re wondering if you’re damaged, if you should have seen it coming, if you’re too far gone to ever trust anyone again—including yourself.
You think you’re the only one going through this. You’re not.
The Real Issue
Here’s what I know from thousands of hours with clients: good people get betrayed. Kind people, soft-hearted people, people with integrity — they get lied to because they’re trustworthy. Your instincts weren’t wrong. You weren’t stupid. You were kind to the wrong person. But now you’re in a bind.
You’ve lost faith in your own judgment. And the question haunting you is: how can I ever trust anyone again if I couldn’t see this coming? The answer isn’t to close yourself off. The answer isn’t isolation. The answer is community.
It’s being in a room with other people who understand exactly what you’re carrying — the shame that isn’t yours, the self-doubt, the moral injury of having your trust weaponized against you — and knowing you’re not alone in it. And it’s learning, from someone who’s lived it and studied it and guided thousands through it, the actual tools that move you from devastation to reclamation.
Meet Annalie
"I'm not here to inspire you with a bumper sticker mantra."
Annalie is a Performance Coach and Trauma Specialist, dedicated to helping high-impact individuals move from devastation to reclamation. With a practice rooted in both clinical excellence and deep lived experience, she bridges the gap between deep inner healing and peak external performance.
- Regular authority in global press and media outlets
- Author of Unapologetic: Unshackle Your Shame and Reclaim Your Power
- Global speaker, and recognised by Spear's as a top performance coach
- Thousands of clinical hours in trauma-informed intervention
- Deeply informed by lived experience and personal transformation
Why Now?
Every single day, I’m on calls with people in acute pain from betrayal.
Last week, someone discovered their best friend had been stealing money from them for years. Another person realized their family member had been gaslighting them their entire life. Another is contemplating cutting off a toxic relationship but is terrified they’ll have no one left.
The pattern is always the same: good, kind people who trusted the wrong person, now carrying all the shame while the person who hurt them walks free.
What these people need isn’t a six-month deep dive into one-on-one coaching. What they need is immediate triage. They need to hear, from someone who’s been there, that they’re not alone. They need to be in a space with other people who get it—who understand the specific pain of betrayal, who aren’t going to offer toxic positivity or try to fix you.
And they need tools they can use right now, today, to start moving forward. That’s what this six-week program is.
This is for you if...
- You've been betrayed, gaslit, abused, or are questioning a toxic relationship in your life. Any timeline—days in or months stuck. Any relationship type—friendship, family, work, romantic.
- You’re carrying shame that isn’t yours and you’ve lost trust in yourself.
- You’re isolated because you can’t talk about this openly.
- You want tools and skills, but you also desperately need to know you’re not alone.
- You’re soft-hearted, kind, and you value connection and community.
- You can’t afford one-on-one coaching right now, but you’re ready to invest in your own healing.
- You are ready to face the truth of your experience with radical honesty and compassion.
- You know you are capable of more than just surviving.
- You are willing to commit to a 6-week journey of deep reclamation.
This is not for you if...
- You are currently in an active crisis and require emergency clinical intervention. If you're in immediate danger, please contact local emergency services or a crisis line.
- You are looking for a quick fix that doesn't require personal accountability.
- You're not ready to show up fully. This isn't passive consumption.
- You are not yet comfortable sharing and listening within a confidential group setting.
- You're not willing to help others in your cohort as part of your healing journey. This is reciprocal: you're here to receive, but also to give.
Week-by-Week Breakdown
Week One: Naming What Happened
You’re not crazy. You’re not damaged. What you experienced was betrayal—and here’s what it actually does to your nervous system, your sense of self, your ability to trust. We name it clearly.
We normalize the shock and disorientation. We establish that this is a safe space to speak your truth without judgment. You meet your cohort. You realize you’re not the only one carrying this.
You’ll leave with: Permission to grieve. A framework for understanding what happened to your body and mind.
Week Two: Recognizing Patterns
Why You Missed the Red Flags - Gaslighting. Abuse. Narcissism. Duplicity. Control. You’re going to learn to recognize these patterns—not so you can beat yourself up for missing them, but so you understand why you missed them.
This week, you learn what you were actually dealing with. And you learn that your instincts weren’t wrong—you were lied to by someone skilled at lying.
You’ll leave with: Clarity on what actually happened. Permission to stop blaming yourself.
Week Three: The Shame and Self-Doubt Spiral
This is the week everything shifts. You’ve lost trust in yourself. You’re wondering how you could have been so wrong. You’re carrying shame that belongs to the person who hurt you, not to you. This week, we interrupt that spiral.
We name where shame comes from and how it gets embedded. We teach you how to recognize the voice in your head that’s not actually yours—it’s the internalized voice of the person who hurt you.
You’ll leave with: Tools to interrupt shame spirals in real time. A way to reclaim your own voice.
Week Four: Boundaries Without Guilt
Setting a boundary with someone you love—or someone you thought you loved—feels like betrayal. It feels selfish. It feels cruel. This week, you learn that boundaries are acts of self-respect, not selfishness.
You learn how to set them. You learn how to survive the guilt and the grief of cutting people off, even when it’s healthy. You learn how to stay open to humanity instead of closing yourself off completely.
A framework for boundary-setting. Language you can actually use. Permission to protect yourself without becoming hard.
Week Five: Rebuilding and Reclaiming
By now, you’ve named what happened. You understand the patterns. You’ve moved through shame. You’ve set boundaries. Now we focus on rebuilding.
What does safety actually feel like in your body? How do you start trusting again—not naively, but wisely? How do you reclaim the parts of yourself that got buried under betrayal?
You’ll leave with: Concrete tools for moving forward. A sense of what your life can look like on the other side of this.
Week Six: Integration and Launch
Who are you becoming? What are you taking with you from this six weeks? Who have you met in this cohort that’s changed your life?
This final week is about consolidation, celebration, and launching into your next chapter—not alone, but connected to a group of people who truly understand you.
You’ll leave with: Friendships that will last. A clear sense of your path forward. Access to your cohort WhatsApp group for thirty days post-programme so you can continue supporting each other and exchanging contact details.
The Real Transformation
You’re not just getting six weeks of content. You’re not paying for a course you’ll half-watch and forget about. You’re getting live access to me every single week—ninety minutes where you can ask questions, share what’s happening, and get real guidance from someone who’s been exactly where you are.
You’re getting a small cohort who are all in acute pain and all ready to move through it. These aren’t randoms on the internet. These are people you’re going to know by name, whose stories you’re going to hold, who are going to cheer for you.
You’re getting a private WhatsApp group where people share between calls, support each other, swap contact details, and build real friendships. It stays active for thirty days after the programme ends so you can consolidate those connections.
You’re getting recorded access if you miss a call—but you won’t want to miss them.
And honestly? You’re getting the statistical likelihood of meeting your next best friend, business partner, or person who genuinely understands you. This is a run club for your soul. People get engaged. People start businesses together. People find the community they’ve been desperately searching for.
That happens here.
Why This Is Different
- Depth Over Surface: No 'toxic positivity' or mindset-only hacks that ignore your body's survival responses.
- High-Proximity Coaching: You aren't just a face in a crowd; you are getting direct intervention from Annalie.
- Lived Experience: This framework was born in the trenches of real devastation, not just academic study.
- No Fluff: Every session is designed for immediate application and lasting integration.
Upcoming Cohorts
Choose the cohort that best fits your schedule. Spaces are strictly limited to ensure intimacy and high-proximity coaching.
June 2026
Starts June 7, 2026
September 2026
Starts September 6, 2026
October 2026
Starts October 7, 2026
The Investment
Every penny of this investment is a commitment to your future self. You’re getting live access to Annalie, a community, and tools—at a price that’s actually accessible.
It’s time-bound and intense. Six weeks, ninety minutes a week. That’s it. You’re not signing up for a year-long commitment. You’re committing to six weeks of real work with real people. And then you have a community that stays connected.
Apply to Reclaim Your Power
The Reclaim Your Power application process is deeply intentional. This form is the first step in creating a safe, high-integrity container for radical personal transformation. Please answer with as much honesty and depth as feels right for you today.
Program Terms & Conditions
Confidentiality
Participation in 'Reclaim Your Power' requires absolute commitment to privacy. You agree that any information, personal stories, or identities shared within the group sessions remain strictly confidential and are not to be shared outside of the cohort.
Intellectual Property
All program materials, including frameworks, worksheets, and recordings, are the exclusive property of Annalie Howling and Incasa Consulting Ltd. You own the tools and frameworks for your own personal healing. You do not own them for commercial use, promotion, or building competing offers. You can’t teach my frameworks as your own or use them to coach others.
Recordings
Sessions are recorded for the benefit of participants who may miss a live call and for internal quality review. By participating, you consent to being recorded within this safe, closed environment. You cannot share them outside the cohort or republish them.
Behaviour
This is a trauma-informed, respectful community. No soliciting. No self-promotion. No coaching or “fixing” other people in the group. No toxic positivity. No judgment. This is a space to share and support, not to prove how healed you are or sell your services. Violation, including disrespectful or harmful behaviour towards other participants or Annalie, will result in immediate removal.
Real Names
To foster trust and authenticity, we encourage participants to use their legal first names during live sessions and within the community platform, however this is not compulsory.
Refunds & Transfers
Due to the high-proximity nature of this coaching and limited cohort size, program fees are non-refundable and non-transferable once the first session has commenced. If you need to transfer to another cohort, you can do so with seven days written notice before the first call to team@annaliehowling.com.
Zero Tolerance
We operate a zero-tolerance policy regarding hate speech, discrimination, or any form of harassment. Safety is our priority.
By submitting your application, you confirm that you have read, understood, and agreed to these terms and those found here.
For any questions, please contact team@annaliehowling.com.